Creative Ways to Show Love to Your Significant Other
***This Post has been updated to include 15 simple creative ways to show love***
Do you have someone you care deeply about? Someone who knows you inside out, understands your biggest dreams and fears, and shares your pain and your happiness?
If the answer is yes then give yourself a high five. It’s not easy to find true love in this day and age when the world is full of tempting options. It’s even harder to maintain a relationship for more than a few weeks.
So if you have a significant other who cares for you as much as you care for them, cherish them. Let them know how much you love and value them every chance you get.
Don’t make them guess.
Don’t wait till later.
And don’t be afraid.
But how do you show love without saying “I love you” all the time? After all, if you say it 50 times a day, it gets kind of old, doesn’t it?
Today I’m going to share 10 simple and yet creative ways to express love to your significant other. Hope these ideas will give you some inspiration on different ways to show love in your daily life!
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- 1. Say These 3 Words Often
- 2. Write Them a Love Letter (The Old Fashioned Way!)
- 3. Make Them Feel Special by Doing This When You’re in a Room Full of People
- 4. Instead of Saying “I Love You”, Tell Them “What I Love About You”
- 5. Be Their Cheerleader
- 6. Instead of another “I Love You” Text, Send Them This
- 7. Surprise Them With a Fun Activity You don’t Normally Do
- 8. Give Them Love Coupons
- 9. Ask Them What Their Perfect Day Looks Like and Help Make It Happen
- 10. Don’t Get Another Card!
- 11. Do Something They Like to Do
- 12. Acknowledge Their Efforts
- 13. Help Them Stay Healthy
- 14. Record an Affirmation for Them
- 15. Don’t Forget Physical Touch
- 16. Final Thought: Make Showing Love a Priority
How to Say “I Love You” Without Saying It
1. Say These 3 Words Often
No, it’s not “I love you”. That wouldn’t be super creative would it?
Tell. Me. More.
I mean, “I love you” is awesome, don’t get me wrong, especially the first time you say these words in a relationship.
But if you’ve been together for a while chances are you probably say this a LOT, sometimes not even realizing it as they roll off your tongue. Like when you’re hurrying to leave the house in the morning or right before you hang up the phone after calling your S.O.to remind them to get some milk at the grocery store.
If you say “I love you” over and over again, after a while, it becomes routine. There’s little mindfulness or intention behind those “I love you’s”.
“Tell me more”, however, requires both intention and mindfulness.
When you say these words, you’re committing yourself to be fully present in that moment with your S.O.
These 3 words signal to your S.O. that you take enough interest in them to give your full attention to what they have to say. And that keen interest and undivided attention will convey your love better than any “I love you’s” you say out of habit.Say these 3 words to your S.O. often to show them your care. Hint: it's not I love you!
2. Write Them a Love Letter (The Old Fashioned Way!)
I know this may be hard to believe, but people used to handwrite love letters. It’s become bit of a lost art and I think that’s such a shame!
When you handwrite a love letter to your S.O., not only are you showing them you cherish them enough to spend the time and energy into writing an actual letter (not another text), you’re also giving yourself an opportunity to remember all the things you love about them. There’s something about writing things down with a pen that makes us remember more.
It contains 12 love letter prompts to help you write deeply personal love letters you and your S.O. can read over and over again. You can seal each letter and open them as you wish. I purchased the same set at a local bookstore and absolutely LOVE it! I look forward to the day I share this with my husband and we unseal the envelopes together.
3. Make Them Feel Special by Doing This When You’re in a Room Full of People
How to show someone you love them without words?
Make them feel like they’re the only person in the world by doing this next time you attend a social event together:
When you’re off on the other side of the room mingling with other people, remember to make eye contact with your S.O. once in a while, and smile.
It’s that simple!
When you do this, you’re letting them know that you’re thinking about them even if you’re not physically by their side. Eye contact, apparently, can make you fall in love. It’s a powerful signal of attraction that will make anyone, especially your significant other, feel good.
It’s also a classy way to show your affection in public without grossing anyone out.
4. Instead of Saying “I Love You”, Tell Them “What I Love About You”
Here’s a great way to say “I love you” without saying those 3 words:
Tell your S.O. what you love about them the most.
And there are so many ways to do this! You can either:
- tell them in person. (This one’s always a winner!);
- surprise them with a text or email, or;
- leave them a cute sticky note on their pillow.
You can also make a personalized notebook of the things you love about your S.O. and give it to them as a gift.
5. Be Their Cheerleader
We all crave loving support from people we care about the most. I know whenever my husband tells me that he not only read my latest blog post, but enjoyed it, I am over the moon!
He’s not a reading type of guy you see (which makes me question his claim that he’s read Lord of the Rings Trilogy from cover to cover), so when he makes an effort to read my posts, I feel his support. To me, that is a thousand times more meaningful than “I love you”.
Showing support is key to maintaining a good relationship. We all want the security of knowing there’s someone watching our back and rooting us on, especially when we’re pursuing a dream or reaching for something outside of our comfort zone.
And if we fall, they will be there to catch us.
So be your S.O.’s loudest, most loyal cheerleader.
Sometimes, no words are even necessary. Just be there when they need you the most.
6. Instead of another “I Love You” Text, Send Them This
A message in a bottle. It’s a clever way to make your love message stand out in this busy world full of digital clutter.
You will need a batch of small cork bottles from the dollar store, a few pieces of paper, and a little imagination.
Your messages can be funny, sweet, sexy, or however you want to make it.
Here are a few ideas on what you can put in your message:
- Share a secret
- Recount a memory
- Invite your S.O. out for a date night with the details
- Tell them something adorable you noticed about them
- Ask a question. It could be something deep like “what’s the best memory you have of your childhood” or as simple as “where would you like to go for dinner this weekend?”
7. Surprise Them With a Fun Activity You don’t Normally Do
Engaging in fun activities together is a good way to keep the sparks alive in any relationship. It’s also a great way to create a positive experience.
According to psychologists and relationship experts, in order for relationships to thrive, you need quite a few positive experiences in your day-to-day life together to counter any negativity.
So why not surprise your S.O. with a fun activity you don’t normally do?
Instead of another night in watching Netflix, go do something new or go somewhere you haven’t been before—an exercise class, a stand-up comedy show, or a photo walk through an unfamiliar part of town (not too late at night of course or you might get a surprise experience you don’t want).
Can’t go out? That’s okay! There are lots of ways to do a fun activity indoors.
Get some canvas and art supplies for an evening of painting and wine. Or put on your favourite playlist and just dance! There’s always something if you’re willing to get off the couch.
According to research, in order to have a happy relationship that lasts, you need 5 positive interactions for every negative interaction.
8. Give Them Love Coupons
Give your S.O. a set of special love coupons. They could be for things like a massage, a one-day “get out of chores” pass, or a “I’ll let you pick the movie” deal.
I don’t know about your other half, but my husband would do anything for an “extra portion of meat” coupon.
9. Ask Them What Their Perfect Day Looks Like and Help Make It Happen
What does the “perfect day” look like for your S.O.? Not your idea of the perfect day, but what they consider to be the best way to spend a day.
Maybe it’s spending quality time with family, or hanging out with a group of friends. Or it could be binge-watching bad documentaries about alien invasions or sleep-in all day long.
Hey remember, it’s THEIR idea of the perfect day.
Then try your best to make that day happen for them. Within your realistic bounds of course, you can’t give them the world!
Clear away any obstacles standing between them and their perfect day. For example, if the problem is they have too many things to do and not enough time, help them do their share of the chores and errands so they can have the time to enjoy that day.
We all need a day like this once in a while where we could do the things we really want to do and wish we had the time to do. It’s important for our happiness.
By helping to make your S.O.’s version of the “perfect day” happen, you’re showing your S.O. you care about their happiness. And that’s a sign of true love.
10. Don’t Get Another Card!
I’m going to take a wild guess and say that you probably give your S.O. store-bought cards all the time. It’s a great gift, don’t get me wrong, but it’s soooo overdone.
Here’s a suggestion:
Why not make a special card for your S.O.? You really don’t need to be the next Picasso to make a stunning card for someone you love. There are tons of great-looking arts and crafts supplies you can get at the dollar store for your project, but I would invest in good quality card stock because it does make a difference.
11. Do Something They Like to Do
I’m 99% sure there’s something your S.O. gets really excited about but you’re not all that into. For example, my husband likes super action-packed movies and me…hmm…not so much.
But once in a while, I’ll watch one with him. It’s my way of saying “I want to spend time with you doing something you enjoy.”
And likewise, he’ll go out on a long walk with me sometimes even though he’s not really into long walks around the neighbourhood.
You and your S.O. will inevitably have different tastes and hobbies, and it’s perfectly okay to do your own thing. But at least once in a while, join your S.O. in an activity they like to do. Again, it’s a great way to show your significant other that you care about their happiness.
Nothing says “I love you” more than the fact you just want to be by their side, even if it means doing something you’re not crazy about.10 simple and creative ways to show love to your significant other!
12. Acknowledge Their Efforts
I don’t know if you’ve seen the movie “Set It Up”? It’s a funny romantic comedy about two overworked assistants trying to set their finicky, workaholic bosses up on romantic dates.
In the movie, one assistant tells his boss in order to win back the affections of his love interest, he should tell her the following line:
“I see you.”
When I first saw that scene, I went “huh”? I see you? What does that even mean?
I even Googled it. And then it dawned on me.
“I see you” really just means “I acknowledge your efforts and I’m impressed.”
And guess what? He got her back.
I’m not surprised. You see, we all want our efforts and hard work to be acknowledged. We all want someone to recognize our worth, even when we don’t recognize it ourselves.
So if you see your significant other trying hard, acknowledge it. Tell them you see their efforts and you’re impressed. One of the best ways to show someone we love them is to tell them we see how hard they try and we are proud of them.
13. Help Them Stay Healthy
If you love someone, it’s natural for you to want them to stay as healthy as possible so you can enjoy many more years with them, living a happy and active life.
Show your love by helping your S.O. adopt and maintain healthy habits such as exercising regularly, eating more fruits and vegetables, or quitting smoking.
If healthy habits are not already part of their lifestyle, it may be a difficult transition for them at first. It might take a while for them to appreciate your efforts. But don’t give up. Keep encouraging them patiently, and be ready to participate in healthy activities with them side by side.
For example, my husband was the one who encouraged me to start hiking after I recovered from Leukemia for the second time. When we first started hiking, he had to constantly motivate me to keep going. There were times when I hated him for making me go through what I had thought was pure torment, but soon I grew to love it.
Hiking helped me rebuild my physical and mental strengths during a difficult period in my life. I’m thankful for him dragging me to the trails and pushing me forward during those early days when I could barely walk up a hill without bending over and gasping for air.
If you do your best to help your significant other maintain a healthy lifestyle, they will greatly appreciate it, even if not right away.
Unlike other material gifts that can quickly lose its shine, this creative way to show love will keep generating value for years to come.
14. Record an Affirmation for Them
You probably didn’t need the five languages of love to tell you that words of affirmation are important in a relationship.
Who doesn’t like hearing praises from their loved ones?
A praise or encouragement from someone we care about often does wonders for our mood, especially when we’re having one of those days when things are just not going our way.
But unless you and your S.O. are joined at the hips or can reach each other instantly at all times, you might not always be available to give your S.O. those words of affirmation when they need them the most.
So here’s an idea:
What if you recorded a series of words of affirmation for your S.O.? If you do that, they can listen to your voice whenever they need to hear encouragements from someone they love.
With the premium version of this app, you can also add your own background music to your recorded affirmations. You can definitely create some amazing recorded affirmations for your S.O. with this app!Here's an amazing way to show love to that special someone in your life: record an affirmation for them they can listen to any time!
15. Don’t Forget Physical Touch
Another creative way to say “I love you” to your S.O. is through physical touch.
Physical touch is a powerful way to communicate love. A kiss, a hug, or even a rub on the back can say so much more than words ever could.
Physical touch is also beneficial to our health. It’s an effective stress reliever, a mood booster, and could even possibly help prevent colds and flus.
Now those are all good reasons to cuddle more!
Besides cuddling, you can also try giving your S.O. a massage. It’s a superb way to help them relax and fire up those feel-good chemicals in their brain.
Final Thought: Make Showing Love a Priority
You know what I learned about life? Above all else, love matters the most.
Don’t believe me? A study done by two psychology professors found that the most common regrets people have are related to romance, lost love, and family.
I can tell you from first-hand experience that when you’re facing the possibility of losing your life, the first thing you think about isn’t going to be “gee, I wish I had more time to get that promotion.”
You’re going to feel there’s not enough time in the world to be with those you love, especially the one person who still makes your heart flutter after all this time.
So don’t squander the time you have now. Make it a priority to show your significant other that you love them, and do it often.
Which of these creative ways to express love did you like the best? Do you have any other suggestions on different ways to show love? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
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